Extract: My Life

Fri, 08 Jul 2005 14:16:36 GMT

by Bill Clinton

The knowledge that I ,too, could die young drove me both to try to drain the most out of every moment of life and to get on with the next big challenge. Even when I wasn't sure where I was going, I was always in a hurry.

I learned that what seems funny to the strong can be cruel and humiliating to the weak.

I learned a lot from the stories my uncle, aunts, and grandparents told me: that no one is perfect but most people are good; that people can't be judged only by their worst or weakest moments; that harsh judgements can make hypocrites of us all; that a lot of life is just showing up and hanging on; that laughter is often the best, and sometimes the only, response to pain.

Today I saw an article in Ankong's space, which changed my mind a little for it seemed quite with reason. Being is logical. (I adhibited it to my Xianga site, welcome to have a look~ ) Just like what Clinton said maybe one should not criticize others by harsh words or otherwise every other one can become a hypocrite. Everyone has a moral yardstick from different level. Maybe urs is higher while hers is reversely a little lower, but it is absolutely true that u can't make everybody's the same. People standing higher should not look down upon on the lower for u are not the highest evermore. When it comes to the people has a higher level than u then u become the lower. We should give some others more chances to learn how to grow up, how to be responsible and how to treat people around her better, even though, maybe, grow-up requires cost, as long as u are not the vcitim...

Buddha: Definition of love

Sun, 03 Jul 2005 12:03:17 GMT

(Story gotten from someone’s space. I translated)
Ⅰ Stone asked: What kind of girl should I choose to be my future wife? The one I love or loves me?
   Buddha smiled: The answer is just in somewhere of ur heart. For these years, to whose love forced u too tied to alive? To whose love enriched ur life? To whose love made u want to step on and on? Ur lover or the one loves u?
   Stone smiled: But all buddies suggested I choose the one who loves me.
   Buddha smiled: If that so, then u will lose ur energy and ur life will become grey & dull. U used to perfect urself in the course of pursuing love. But someday when u no longer do so, then, ur self-perfect steps will stagnate.
    Stone suddenly said: So u mean after I’ve chased the girl I love, then I will….
   Buddha answered: For she is ur lover, so to make her happy and joyous becomes the most important task in ur life. U definitely will continue working harder and harder for her happiness and blessedness. There is no limit about happy, so ur struggle is endless. Never stop.
   Stone doubted: Does that mean I will be very painstaking in the future?
   Buddha replied: Do u feel painstaking these years for your devotion?
   Stone shaked his head, and then smiled.
Ⅱ Stone asked: Then, should I treat the one loves me well?
    “No” Buddha replied: Do u need ur lover treat u well?
    Stone smiled, bitterly: I don’t think so.
   Buddha: Give me ur reason.
   Stone said: I have quite a high standard of love. That is I do not want any admixture, e.g. mercy or pity, in love. She should love me with all her heart and soul. Pity and mercy are kind of happiness in some sense, but to me, what can that function is just to make me extremely detest! If her love mixes pity and mercy I would rather she dumps me directly just before I can’t haul out, for in sentiment, one will go deeper and deeper. Despair is far more substantial than hope, as the pain of despair can last only for one second while pain of hope will last for ever.
    Buddha smiled: Well done. U’ve already given out the answer.
Ⅲ Stone asked: Why in foretime when I fell in love with a girl I thought she was the most beautiful one in the world. But now when I fall in love with someone, I don’t think so. I always find other girls more pretty than her?
   Buddha said: Are u sure u truly love her? Is she the one u love for most in the world?
   Stone replied: Of course!
   Buddha smiled: Congratulations! That means ur love is very mature, rational, pure-hearted and deep-felt.
   Stone surprised: Why?
   Buddha continued: She is not the most beautiful one in the world. Even before u love her greatly u’ve already gotten the truth, but still u love her devoted. Because u don’t just put ur attention on her appearance. Everybody will get older and beautiful faces will fade away gradually. Ur love surpassing such appearances equals to surpassing years. U love her wholly for u love her unique heart.
    Stone couldn’t bear to say: Absolutely. I love her chastity and goodness. I cherish her puerility!
    Buddha smiled: Then, ur love can burden any challenges from years.
Ⅳ Stone asked: I fell in love with a girl in college. I loved her so much but she didn’t. At present she falls in love with me but it seems that I’ve lost such feeling, or to say I don’t love her anymore. What’s wrong?
    Buddha said: Can u force urself no longer to bethink of her from now on?
    Stone thought for a while: I can’t. For these years I always called her to mind intentionally or not. Especially when my college classmates got together and referred to her, every time I paid extraordinary attention; When received her mails or callings I felt nervous and exciting unintelligibly; And the reason why I haven’t had any girlfriends these years is that I could not forget about her, or otherwise I was looking for a girlfriend similar to her. But for sure I don’t love her anymore.
     Buddha sighed: Though u don’t have many changes externally, ur heart experienced a long journey, or to say u’ve tied a rational and earthy knot above ur love. Just because this knot so u don’t love her. Who started the trouble should end it. U know 500 times starings only exchange for one time’s encounter. Everybody has to accept and reject, and as far as how to accept and reject relies on ur own opinion. Nobody can help u.
     Stone silenced and looked over the distance. Even Buddha is not omnipotent….

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